Without counsel plans fail,
but with many advisers they succeed.
Proverbs 15:22 (ESV)
One theme in Proverbs that keeps popping out at me is the importance of gaining wisdom from mentors. Mentors guide and direct us in life decisions as well as hold us accountable in our walk with the Lord.
Do you have a mentor?
I love how The Message paraphrases this verse:
Refuse good advice and watch your plans fail;
take good counsel and watch them succeed.
This is exactly why we need mentors. We need godly people speaking into our lives on a weekly basis, giving us good counsel. We learn over and over in Proverbs that the Lord blesses those who listen and heed wise godly counsel. Refusing good advice and counsel is like shooting ourselves in the foot. If we have godly people speaking godly wisdom into our lives, why wouldn’t we want to accept it?!
Where to start?
I have been reading through a book called, Mentoring: How to Invest Your Life in Others by Tim Elmore. He lists 4 ways you can start taking the first steps to finding a mentor:
1. Pray consistently that the Lord wills send you a mentor.
2. Lower your standard. You may be looking for an ideal mentor that truly doesn’t exist…anywhere in the world. Take what you can get and be blessed.
3. Be willing to sacrifice to find them. This may mean driving a couple of hours to meet with them once a month. It could mean you meet them over Skype or Facetime, etc.
4. Keep your antennas up. Everywhere you go in your daily routines, be on the lookout for potential mentors.
Elmore also gives us 4 goals of what to look for in a mentor-GOAL:
They must demonstrate character and conduct that is worth imitation. They should remind you of Jesus.
They must be able to see strengths and weaknesses clearly, and be willing to communicate those honestly.
They must be real. You must be able to see their humanity; they should be genuine, transparent and open with you.
They must be people who are loyal to others. When friendships (or mentoring relationships) are formed, they are committed to them.
If you have a mentor, I would love to hear about it! Please comment below and share: 1) how you found your mentor, 2) when/where you meet with your mentor, 3) the best thing about your relationship with your mentor.