My mom and I were recently asked to speak to a group of Mothers, mothers who specifically were raising high school daughters..whew! My mom shared a story about me that I had never heard her share before. Apparently I left her a note telling her that I was going with a friend to see the movie, Father of the Bride II on the “Big Screen” (haha). She said even then I dreamed of one day being married and having a husband. I remember playing silly games like MASH and CASH (because duh…every girl wants to live in a castle) and I would pick 3 boys that I thought were cute and I would plan how many children I wanted to have, what city we would live in, what car I would drive…blah blah blah.
Well many years later and here I am, single…often wondering if and when my desire for a husband will ever come true so I can have the happily ever after that I have longed for since Steve Martin and Kimberly Williams Paisley placed it in my mind over 15 years ago. The journey the Lord and I have walked together thus far in the area of relationships has been both joyous and painful, both encouraging and discouraging, both sweet and bitter…but through it all one thing has remained…my desire for a husband.
Through nothing other than a divine appointment…a sweet friend pointed me to Isaiah 54:5 which says, “For your Maker is your husband–the LORD Almighty is his name–the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.” This verse rocked my world. I already DO have a husband…HE is my Maker and He is the LORD (All caps) Almighty. What more could a girl want? That is the happily EVER after that can only be found in Jesus Christ (totally trumps the white tent and Christmas lights in Father of the Bride any day)!
After being ROCKED to the core by this verse, I felt led to take the time to identify what exactly I was looking for in a husband and then ask the Lord to reveal to me how HE is the ultimate husband that my heart desires and longs for. This process truly began stirring in me after some time looking online. I found myself longing for things I did not have…not evil things…but earthly things nonetheless; but Praise the Lord HE spoke to me and showed me that all those desires can be met by Him alone if I just give HIM that power and that role in my life. I am still learning and have asked the Lord to now point me to specific scripture that captures His promises as my husband during this season of my life, allowing Him to meet these desires first and foremost. My heart wants to be able to have a healthy relationship with the man the Lord places in my life while here on earth…one that I don’t look to the man for total fulfillment and security but instead I am pointed to the LORD…that is my prayer and the Lord is revealing this to me…now I just got to claim it, trust it and live it!
Below is part of the process I went through with the Lord as I allowed Him and am still allowing Him to meet my deepest desires. As you can see it was literally a conversation I had with my sweet Savior, one that I will never forget:
|Lord, I want to build a home with my husband.||Daughter, the home I am preparing for you is made with streets of gold and gates of pearl…what is greater than that! In the meantime I am allowing you opportunities to build MY Kingdom, nothing is more important to me! (Revelation 21:21)|
|Lord, I too want to receive anniversary gifts from a husband that loves and cherishes me.||Sweet Child, I give you new gifts everyday! I bring you flowers, a sunrise, a sunset, love, peace, family, and friendships–all blessings are from me. I am showering you with gifts—take the time to recognize and give me thanks. (John 1:16)|
|Lord, I would love to get a LOVE letter from my husband.||One word. BIBLE. (Genesis-Revelation)|
|Lord, I want to feel taken care of and provided for.||Child, I am Jehovah Jireh. Your great provider. I provide you with health, money, food, shelter. I clothe the lilies and take care of the sparrow, trust me when I say I consider you WAY more than them. I got YOU in the palm of my hand…no worries! (Matthew 6:28; Isaiah 49:16)|
|Lord, you know I hate making decisions on my own; I would love a companion to lead me and help me when making decisions.||Daughter, I speak to you. You are my sheep and I am your shepherd, you hear my voice; don’t doubt me and my love for you. Listen to the Holy Spirit that is in you and trust. I LOVE you that much and promise to answer you and guide you with my staff and rod. SEEK me and you WILL find me. (John 10:27; 1 Peter 5:7; Jeremiah 29:13)|
|Jesus, I desire kids of my own.||Daughter, look around you…you do have kids to minister to and I am preparing you and molding you for a day of motherhood. Until then learn to love the unlovable and have patience and to see all children as fearfully and wonderfully made in My image.(Genesis 1:27)|
|Lord, I want intimacy.||Beloved, let me in to this vulnerable part of your life and you will NEVER be the same. Remember I love you, I created you, I know your inmost beings and I desire a relationship with you. Keep seeking me in this area and I will be faithful; it is My promise. (Ps. 139:13)|
What are you looking for in a husband? What desires do you want met in a husband? Have you allowed those desires to first be met by Your Maker? Claim Isaiah 54:5 and spend some time getting to know your Lord better! As my friend once told me, “When we take time out with the Lord, we never walk away from Him disappointed or feel like we wasted time. He truly is the best date we could ever go on!” So put on your best outfit or your best pair of sweat pants, grab a cup of coffee and hang out with your Husband…the Holy One of Isreal, for He will never leave you nor forsake you and you will be certain to live Happily Ever After and after and after and after…(well you get the point)!
May I suggest you listen to the words of the song “Beautiful” by Phil Wickham. These lyrics truly are a magical vision of how it will be, one day, when we are united with our Maker…our Husband!
I see you there hanging on a tree
You bled and then you died and then you rose again for me
Now you are sitting on Your heavenly throne
Soon we will be coming home
You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful
When we arrive at eternity’s shore
Where death is just a memory and tears are no more
We’ll enter in as the wedding bells ring
Your bride will come together and we’ll sing
You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful