I am a single girl who needs her momma and daddy! I am so blessed with an incredible relationship with both my parents. It has been about 4 ½ years since I lived with them, but that hasn’t prevented our relationships from growing stronger. As a single female who lives on my own, in an entire different state than any other family, I strongly depend on my parents.
I want to give all of the ma’s and pa’s out there some tips, on how you can better encourage, love, and support your single adult daughters.
# 1. Listen.
You daughter needs you to listen to her. Take the time and call her. Often. She needs to know that you are a listening ear whenever she needs to talk. Sometimes as singles, we don’t always have the privilege of talking to someone about the intimate details of our lives. Many times, we don’t think people care. Show her you care by listening.
#2. Give financial advice.
I am so thankful for the wisdom my daddy gives me when it comes to my finances. I always feel like I can talk to him about my budget, or a big purchase, and I will get non-judgmental advice. Also, having parents involved in financial decisions gives your daughter a certain sense of accountability that we as singles need.
#3. Show affection.
Daddy’s- Love on your daughters. It doesn’t matter how old they are…they need a hug and kiss from you. There is nothing like it. Single girls need physical touch. (appropriately, of course!) There have been times where I have gone several days without a single physical touch, and I thought I would lose my mind! Daddy’s, your girls need appropriate affection from you, so they don’t seek out inappropriate affection elsewhere. Love on your daughters.
Momma’s- Love on your daughters. Tell them they are beautiful. Many times, girls struggle with their self esteem because they have felt judged or rejected by their mother. Your daughters need to be told often that they are beautiful and special. Yeah, we know it’s your job to say it, but it still means the world to hear it.
#4. Model a godly marriage.
Your single daughters need to learn what a godly marriage looks like. Who better for us to learn from than our parents?! Know that your daughters are watching your relationships. They are observing your words, actions, and body language. The way you handle conflict, struggles, and even victories are being observed. Mothers, we are watching you to learn how to be a godly wife. Fathers, we are watching you to learn what to look for in a husband.
Not every relationship, every day, is going to be perfect. I’m just asking that parents become aware of their daughter’s singleness. This season of life can be difficult, and your daughters need you.
Even though she is an adult, she is not married yet, so she is still your responsibility. Love on her, pray for her, and protect her with your support and advice. She will forever be grateful.
And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.